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Friday, December 01, 2017

‡ Almost ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 1:11:00 PM

Almost.

One word that can actually haunt us longer than we want it to be. 
One word that can make you remember hidden emotions.
One word that can bring you smile and tears at the same time.

Have you ever been in an almost relationship?





We Didn’t Date So Why Did It Hurt So God Damn Badly

 
We didn’t date. I didn’t need that spelled out for me.

I felt it every time I the words ‘just friends’ came out of my mouth. The words tasted bad but I couldn’t lie about what we were and I couldn’t pretend to be something we weren’t.

The problem with feelings and matters of the heart though is your heart does not give a fuck whether or not there is some label there. Your heart decides and that’s it. Suddenly you’re at the whim of making irrational choices that can only be justified because you love this person.

People argued it wasn’t real love. They say love is that which is reciprocated. Love is that which leaves you whole and not empty. That real love doesn’t hurt.

I don’t think love can be so simply defined. I don’t think it’s black and white. I think there are a lot of grey areas that gets lost and not talked about just because it isn’t the typical standard of what love is supposed to be in the eyes of everyone watching.

We didn’t date but I still looked at you like you were the best thing that happened in my life. Because at the time you were.

Every conversation. Every laugh. Every moment spent together where I envied anyone that took up your time that wasn’t me.

I missed you before you even said goodbye and wished I could freeze moments.

We didn’t date but I still compared you to everyone I met. And they always fell short of these expectations I suddenly had in someone.

Because it wasn’t just opening my door and paying for some tab or making sure I walked on the inside of the sidewalk, it was the respect you had for me.

In everyone I met it was you I was looking for only to realize someone like you couldn’t be replicated.

We didn’t date but my heart still raced every time we were in the same room and every time your name appeared across my phone. There wasn’t a smile bigger than the one you brought to my face.

We didn’t date but I still talked about you like you put the stars in the sky. Because you really did change my life so much for the better.

We didn’t date but you were everything I wanted so badly at one point. If people were interested in me I didn’t even notice because you had every bit of my attention.

And it didn’t matter what we were or rather weren’t, I was just happy to have you in my life. I was happy to have your time and attention even if it came few and far between sometimes.
 
Then suddenly everything changed with one conversation.

It’s the conversation that defines what you are and what you’ll never be. The conversation that depletes any hope of anything every happening in a future that will never be. The conversation that suddenly makes every encounter after that awkward.

Once every card is laid out and everything is talked about there is no hiding how you feel. There’s no secrecy or wondering. There is no hope. And you’re overcome with guilt for falling so hard like it was all your fault.

Then you have to get over it.

But how do you even heal and get over someone who wasn’t yours to begin with?
 

 
I sat in airport with a ticket like flying 10,000 miles away thinking that would make me forget him and how I felt. If anything it made it worse. I realized no matter where I went or how many airports I’d find myself in, during those few months, he was everywhere. Haunting my in a way. Found in street corners and gift shops.

When you love someone, they don’t leave just because you did. You take them with you.

I realized eventually I was going to have to face this head on. I was going to have to get over it. And there wasn’t going to be anyone comforting me because they all saw it coming and they were entitled to say I told you so.

When you fall for someone you aren’t dating you are blinded with rose colored lenses while everyone else wants to warn you that you shouldn’t do this, as if it was a choice you got to make.

You don’t pick who you love and you sure as hell don’t have a say in when it stops.

Real relationships have this start and end period. Concrete dates to look back at of how long it’s been. Concrete feeling that were mutual at one point. But almost relationships just have a bunch of grey areas and nothing defined and lines that drawn and rewritten. It’s games played and mixed signals and confusion.

Whether the other person wants to admit it or not I think feelings are present a least a little bit. Even almost relationships can’t be maintained if it’s just one sided and one person’s interest. For any relationship to last even if it’s just an emotional connection it requires the effort of both parties.

When those relationships end we put it all on ourselves thinking we were stupid and it was our fault we felt that way. But nothing is ever all yours to own entirely.

You look back at moments and you can’t believe you said the things you did or acted the way you did. But that’s love for you. If you aren’t being a complete fool and going to absurd lengths, I question if you really love the person.

We didn’t date but there were still nights I was crying myself to sleep at night.

We didn’t date but there were still moments where I’d do anything to numb the pain I was feeling.

We didn’t date but everything about him hurt like any other relationship I had actually been in.

Pain does not discriminate. And it doesn’t hurt any less just because you never dated. Sometimes that factor alone makes it hurt more.

I didn’t realize it was love every time those words drunkly slipped out of my mouth with goodbye.

I realized I loved him when all that pain hit me at once realizing what we’d never be.

Love is to happiness as heartbreak is to depression.

And I watched myself turn into this version I didn’t even know nor could I recognize. It hurt like hell because even if there wasn’t some label to it I couldn’t deny that everything I felt was so real.

We didn’t date but I don’t think I’ve ever experienced pain so badly in my life.

We didn’t date but I was barely eating sleeping or functioning because it hurt so badly.

And I had to present it to the world like I wasn’t feeling these things so heavily. I had to face everyone like I wasn’t falling apart inside. I had to carry on like getting through 24 hours was easy. But the reality was I dismissed myself often to breakdown and cry alone. And I couldn’t talk about it because what do you even say?

The hardest part of getting your heart broken by someone you didn’t date is when they want things to go back to what they were and you want to be strong but everything about their presence makes you weak. Part of you wants to say, ‘I need time to get over you. I need time to heal.’ But then you think that’s selfish.

You don’t want to lose them in your life but it hurts like hell standing in front of someone who isn’t yours when you are so in love with them.

It hurts like hell watching them love someone else and you have to just put on a brave face and stand there.

It hurts like hell playing the role they need you to but you love them enough to hurt yourself and do just that.

Because the truth is what they taught you most about love is how selfless it is sometimes.

You love someone and you want them to be happy even if it doesn’t include you.


 


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Friday, May 23, 2014

‡ 15 Signs: Do You Love What You Do? ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 10:05:00 AM

What is your passion?



Mine is writing. Well, I believe it is ever since I was a kid but, due to my confidence crisis, I don't know if I have talent to be the compatible partner for my passion.

Some said passion means loving what you do.

However, the next question is, do you love what you do genuinely... or do you just pretend and try to love it?

Here's an article I read this morning. I'd love to share this short read with you. Hopefully it can spark a little bit of your passion. ;)



15 Revealing Signs You Genuinely Love What You Do

Passion and purpose -- in short, doing what you love -- can be difficult to find. Some people search forever. Some gain remarkable skills and talents only to think, I'm great at this so why don't I feel successful? Others, even after building successful businesses, suddenly think, Hold on, this is just not me.

Though we would all like to be happier at work, at times it's easy to miss the work-we-love forest for the irritation trees. So I asked Dharmesh Shah, co-founder of HubSpot (No, 666 on the Inc. 5000 in 2013) and a guy who has spent a tremendous amount of time thinking about doing what he loves and creating a company his employees love, how he knows he loves his work.
See what you think. Though some of the following may not be true all of the time, when you love what you do, many should be the case much of the time. There's a results chart at the end, so keep track of how many apply to you:

 
1. You don't struggle to stay disciplined; you struggle to prioritize.
Your problem definitely isn't staying busy and on task. Getting going isn't an issue. Your problem is you have so many things you want to do, you struggle to decide what to do first.

2. You think, I hope I get to... instead of, I hope I don't have to...
When you love your work, it's like peeling an onion. There are always more layers to discover and explore. When you hate your work it's also like peeling an onion--but all you find are more tears.

3. You don't talk about other people; you talk about the cool things other people are doing.
"I hear Chad just invested in a startup. What are they working on?"
"I can't believe Angie won their business back; I'd love to know how she did it."
"Cecilia developed a new sales channel. Let's ask her how we can best leverage that."

When you love your work, you don't gossip about the personal failings of others. You talk about their successes, because you're happy for them (which is also also a sign you're happy with yourself.)

4. You think about what you will say, not how you will say it.
You don't have to worry about agendas or politics or subtle machinations. You trust your team members--and they trust you.

5. You see your internal and external customers not as people to satisfy but simply as people.
You don't see customers as numbers. They're real people who have real needs. And you gain a real sense of fulfillment and purpose from taking care of those needs.

6. You enjoy your time at work.
You don't have to put in time at work and then escape to "life" to be happy. You enjoy life and enjoy work. You feel alive and joyful not just at home but also at work. When you love your work, it's a part of your life.

7. You enjoy attending meetings.
No, seriously, you enjoy meetings. Why? Because you like being at the center of thoughtful, challenging discussions that lead to decisions, initiatives, and changes--changes you help make happen.

8. You don't think about surviving. You think about winning.
You don't worry much about your business failing. You're more worried about your business not achieving its potential. And you worry about whether you're making as big an impact as you can. Those are good worries.

9. You're excited about what you're doing, but you're more excited about the people you're doing it with.
Why? They're smart. Passionate. Confident. Funny. Dedicated. Giving. Inspiring.

10. You hardly ever look at the clock.
You're too busy making things happen. And when you do look at the clock, you often find that the time has flown.

11. You view success in terms of fulfillment and gratification, not just money.
Everyone wants to build something bigger. Everyone wants to benefit financially. Yet somewhere along the way, your work has come to mean a lot more to you than just a living. And if you left your business, even if for something that paid more, you would miss it. A lot.

12. You leave work with items on your to-do list you're excited about tackling tomorrow.
Many people cross the fun tasks off their to-do lists within the first hour or two. You often have cool stuff--new initiatives, side projects, hunches you want to confirm with data, people you want to talk to--left over when it's time to go home.

13. You help without thinking.
You like seeing your employees succeed, so it's second nature to help them out. You pitch in automatically. And they do the same for you.

14. You don't think about retirement, because retirement sounds boring… and a lot less fulfilling.

15. Your business is a business you would want your children to run.
There may be aspects of your business you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy, much less your kids: insufferable customers, unbearable employees, difficult working conditions, uncertain long-term prospects.

If you would say to your child, "No, I would never want you to have to deal with that," why do allow yourself to continue to deal with that?
Naturally, you want your kids to be happy. You also deserve to be happy. List the problems and then fix the problems.

 
How many of the above statements apply to you and your business?

 
If you said:

0-4: You need to find a line of work. Life is too short.

5-8: You don't hate your work but don't love it either. What can you do differently?

9-12: You really enjoy your work and the people you work with.

13-15: You are deeply, madly in love with your work! (And your friends are jealous!)

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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

‡ 7 Reasons: Travel Alone ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 11:44:00 AM

Do you like travelling?



I do... or, at least, I think I do.
I never travel alone though (in my own definition of travelling).

The first time I left Indonesia without my parents is when I went to Singapore with Brenda, Dewi, and Monica (I wrote about it here) on 2011. It's quite interesting since we just went here and there based on online research by our own.

I went to Singapore again on November 2012 with Alvin, Liani, and Tono. Although I visited the same country, since I had different companion, it did feel somewhat different -- I enjoyed both experiences for sure.

Then Malaysia is my next destination on 2013 with Dewi, Indra, Liani, and Stella (complete story is here).

I went to Singapore (again) this January 2014 with my Mom. Third time but definitely the most different experience since I was the one who in charge for everything. I took a couple of hours to walk around Orchard alone during the third day since my Mom was too tired at the moment.

On additional note, I went to Bandung on January 2014 with Alvin, Liani, and Stella -- only for random walk and food. Another visit to Bandung (and Lembang Floating Market) last February 2014 with Jeanette, Matthew, and Wien.

I have this (probably) resolution to go on travelling alone (yes, no friend, no tour guide) one day. The destination? I have the name already but, well, I need to increase my savings first. *laughs*

Anyway, I just want to share an article I read this morning with all of you. Who knows if you find this kind of true? ;)



7 Reasons Why You Should Travel Alone At Least Once In Your Life


1. You will meet amazing people.
While traveling with friends or a significant other can be a lot of fun, traveling solo for a certain amount of time can prove to be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do because of the great people you’ll meet.

When we travel with friends or a partner, we tend to stick to that little group of familiar faces and even though you’ll meet new people, the dynamics and interactions won’t be as deep and fulfilling. While you’re on your own on the road, you’re much more eager to meet travel buddies, team up with other travelers and generally reach out more in order to socialize.


2. The overwhelming sense of absolute freedom.
When you travel on your own and you start meeting people and making awesome friends, you’ll probably team up with travel buddies and end up expanding your travel plans. You’ll probably change your plans once you hear about that amazing waterfall, that incredible desert beach, the opportunity to bungee jump from a high bridge, or taste a special delicacy you’ll only find off the beaten track.

When you’re traveling, you’re open to change and you’ll welcome it with open arms. The great thing is that you don’t have to fit into a group’s agenda, give explanations or disappoint anyone, you can follow your rhythm, desires and move like the wind.


3. Traveling alone challenges your fears and insecurities
This is a big one, especially if it’s your first solo experience. I remember the first time I traveled when I was 18 and moved to London on my own for 3 months to be an au pair and live with a local family. I was terrified of the unknown, but if I would have surrendered to that fear, I would have never get to know the strong, courageous and adventurous side of me. I was scared, but I did it anyways and by the 3rd day, I was really proud of myself. From then on I never let fear stop me. 16 years and many adventures later, I still have a little voice inside my head, asking: “What if something goes wrong?” “What if you get into trouble?” This is normal and perfectly human; fear exists for our own protection and boosts our awareness. But we shouldn't let it control our lives.

Safety can be a great comfort, but common sense is the key. Read and research a lot before you travel, check out hostel reviews, and research feedback from other travelers in forums and blogs. Respect the local culture and I guarantee you’ll be fine.


4. Fall in love.
Everyone wants to find their better half and much is said about failed relationships while on the road. It doesn't have to be like that! We find love when we meet someone who shares our interests, dreams, and goals. While traveling solo you’ll meet so many people from all walks of life that falling in love might just happen. Whether it will be a great summer love or end up at the altar, no one knows, but there are many people out there with amazing stories.

If you already have a partner, this time away can boost your passion and once you’re back, you’ll appreciate each other’s company more.


5. You can take the time to nurture yourself.
If you have a stressful life back home, either studying hard or working too much, traveling on your own can be the time to take some time off and nurture yourself.

Whether you’re a backpacker traveling cheap or if the sky is the limit as far as your budget goes, you can use this time to pamper yourself. Indulge in rich and delicious local meals which will boost your energy and health, take long walks on the beach by sunrise, or get a massage. Do some yoga and relax a lot. Enjoy all the wonderful things you deserve, and understand that happiness is a birth right, not a privilege.


6. You’ll have a chance to recreate yourself and be who you want to be.
While traveling solo, you can leave your grumpy, tired old self behind and start to be a new you. Explore parts of your personality you are not very comfortable or familiar with. When on the road, you might be challenged by unexpected factors and be positively surprised how well you respond to them. Empower yourself by unleashing the wonderful, irresistible and intelligent person you are, but whom you've neglected in your everyday routine.


7. You can finally take time to leave everything else behind.
Just disconnect from the world for a while. Turn off your mobile, “forget” to check you emails for a few days… don’t think about the bills, the responsibilities, the duties and problems. Leave them behind.

Some of the most intense creative times or the ones where we find the solutions for all our problems are actually the moments when we disconnect and stop worrying. Have you ever tried to remember a name or a date and you just can’t spit it out, but after you quit trying it pops out? It’s the same for the rest of life. Sometimes our brains need to get rid of old thoughts in order to be able to create space for new ones, better ones. So just disconnect yourself from everything and you might be amazed by how fresh you’ll feel once you get back home.

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Wednesday, March 19, 2014

‡ Right, Wrong : Person, Time ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 10:21:00 PM

Apparently, tonight I bring 'love' as the theme again.

I read an article, written beautifully and amazingly true. You can read her writing here.

Every girl has her own ideal type.

Tall. Humorist. Smart. Handsome. Friendly. Easy going. Honest. Sweet. Creative. Independent.
Mr Nice Guy. The Bad Boy. The Alpha Male. The Romantic Prince.
Musician. Artist. Cook. Photographer. Sportsman.

The list goes on and on, according to each girl in this world who has personal preference for boys.


I remember writing this one question around three years ago. This question would linger in my mind whenever I feel like standing at the edge of somewhere; not knowing whether I'm going to fall on safe place or to the dark abyss.

"Am I the right person who appeared in the wrong time...

or am I only a wrong person who appeared in the right time?"

According to J.cheong (the writer of the article I mentioned above), there are three men in every girl's love life.


The right person you meet at the wrong time.

During your time of youth, a girl could have every first time with this one person. Your first love and, probably, your first heartbreak. He's the right person who became the one who told you that not everything you wanted is what you needed.


The right person you meet at the right time.

Then there is this one person who could make you realize why everything didn't work out the way you think it should be.

For girls who love romantic stuff, this person is the one who would be the companion in every moment you would love to remember for your whole life. For them who are not too romantic (including me), he is the man who is your best friend, brother, and lover at the same time. He would be glad to tell you that imperfection is what makes love even more beautiful.


The wrong person you meet at the right time.

As for the last, the writer talked about marriage -- about how true love is all about a matter of timing. Perhaps, for now, he is the right one but, in ten years, he might not be the one anymore. She mentioned about marriage is not (always) about the right one at the right time, but it's because he is the right one forever.


I'm just going to add a small point here but, no, I'm not going to talk about marriage since I know barely nothing about it. When we talk about the wrong person at the right time, girls in their 20s would probably think about this one guy who appeared in the low points of their lives. He would lift you up, shine on you, stay with you like no other.

Everything felt perfectly right... but it's all just your feeling. You thought he's the right one but, no, he's just there at the perfect timing. There would come a moment when it hit you hard, "Oh my, what was I thinking again? How could I not realize that we're not meant to be?"


Is it love when that moment came up? Is it regret? Is it a complaint?

Depends.

I'm not going to count it as a regret nor complaint. You just learn another life lesson. You celebrate his existence in your love history but, you know, he's not the right one.


That's the end of my random opinion tonight.

How about yours? ;)




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Thursday, January 02, 2014

‡ More Resolutions for 2014 ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 3:22:00 PM

Are 25 resolutions not enough for 2014?

It's 2 January 2014 and, here I am again, to list down more resolutions for you to read. However these are not my resolutions; I wrote everything already yesterday.

I read this article from the same website where I quoted the 25 resolutions. Apparently they shared even more resolutions for this new year. Perhaps it can inspire you to have better resolutions -- especially for all of you who are in 20s (I'm still 22 anyway!).

Let me just do CTRL+C and CTRL+V first here and just quote what I like the most.


1. No more procrastinating. If something needs to be done, you do it then and there.

2. No more eating when you’re down. You’re just going to gain weight and make yourself feel even worse.

3. Get to bed earlier. Nothing great happens after 2 am.

4. Wake up earlier. You don’t need to see the sun come up, but if the birds are chirping then you should be working.

7. Give your liver a break and stop being a short step and stumble away from alcoholism.

10. Stop spending money on things that you don’t need.

12. Leave your comfort zone at least once a week — every week.

13. Travel more.

16. Give up commenting on topics you are clueless about.

17. When you don’t know the answer to things, ask.

18. Speak up and be heard. Being brilliant is useless unless others recognize it.

19. If you’re introverted, practice being a bit more outgoing and interactive.

20. If you’re extroverted, spend some more time alone, being contemplative.

21. Stop harassing others.

22. Stop allowing yourself to be harassed. Stand up for yourself — no one else will.

23. Resolve to get to know yourself better. You’re the most interesting person you’ll ever get to know.

25. Learn to think for yourself.

27. Understand that there is always a better, more efficient way to do something. Then figure out how.

28. Be more curious. Life may be an unsolvable puzzle, but it’s a puzzle nonetheless.

29. Start giving back to your community — you may need its help one day.

30. When someone does something nice for you, thank him or her genuinely.

31. Tell those you love that you love them; they won’t be around forever and then you’ll wish you’d have let them know when you had the chance.

32. Take that resolution that you have been “working on” for the last half-decade and actually get it done.

33. Give to those in need. One species, one family.

35. Allow yourself to fall in love. You have to want it to find it.

36. Conquer a fear. Then conquer another. Life is to be lived, not feared.

37. Learn to accept what you can’t change.

38. Find the courage to change what you can change.

39. Figure out what you actually want out of life. If you don’t know what is important to you then you don’t know yourself.

40. Find a passion and run with it.

41. Make mistakes. Then learn from them.

42. Learn from the mistakes of others.

43. Read more.

51. Stop texting when you’re having dinner.

52. Resolve to spend more time talking to people face-to-face.

53. If you get turned down then don’t dwell, move on.

54. Never live in the past — only in the present and near future.

55. If you forgive then forget.

57. Spend more time with those who matter and less time with those who don’t.

58. If you hate your job then quit your job. Don’t torture yourself for yet another year.

59. Attempt to do something that you don’t think you can do and then truly give it your all. You’ll be surprised with the results.

60. Be a better son or daughter.

61. Be a better brother or sister.

63. Appreciate the things that others do for you.

64. Make your appreciation known. Not being appreciated has the same result as not knowing you’re appreciated.

65. Wave and smile at strangers. You may just save their lives.

66. Don’t poke fun of those who are in a bad situation. They have enough weighing on their shoulders.

67. Give a helping hand whenever you are able to — not just when you are in the mood to.

68. Become more self-reliant; in the end it’s really you against the world.

69. Either practice what you preach or stop preaching. If you’re going to point a finger then point one at yourself first.

70. Start making more money. When there is a will, there is a way — a legal way.

71. Stay up-to-date on world news. The world keeps getting smaller and smaller and our voices keep getting louder and louder.

72. Resolve to take at least two week-long vacations. Aim for four.

73. Start every day excited and on full throttle. Being energetic in the morning often leads to being energetic throughout the day.

77. Don’t let people make decisions for you. It’s your life and you’re a grownup dammit.

78. Learn to take responsibility for your actions.

79. Learn something new: a language, an instrument, a sport…

80. Resolve to do what you believe to be right.

81. Promise yourself to keep an open mind and to weigh all the options carefully.

82. Read up or brush up on philosophy. It will change the way you perceive the world and your purpose in it.

83. Accept that there is no one reality, but a multitude of them—each person perceiving things just a little differently.

84. Don’t get worked up during arguments. They’re not worth the stress.

85. See things a bit more black and white. It’ll make making decisions a whole lot easier.

86. Practice self-control. You may not be able to control every aspect of your life, but you can control you.

91. Make those who are important in your life feel special. Give them the attention and love that they deserve and they will reciprocate.

94. Resolve to find more balance in your life. Extremes are a part of life, but without overall balance, we will fall off the deep end and drown.

95. Train your brain. It’s the greatest and most important tool in your arsenal. Learn to use it better.

96. Delay gratification. The wait itself is usually the best part.

98. Keep the promises you make and don’t make promises that you can’t keep.

99. No more making excuses for yourself. You are in control of your destiny; if you fail to make something out of yourself then you are the one that is failing — nobody else.

100. Stop taking life so seriously. It’s supposed to be fun. And besides, it’ll all be over before you know it.

Original and complete article: here


I personally like a lot of them but, yes, I have my favorite points.

No more procrastinating. I do this a lot. Most of the times actually. I always have excuses to procrastinate everything.

Stop spending money on things that you don't need. I have a problem with money management, I must admit.

Travel more. Anyone? I'd love to travel to places I never visit before. By myself,

Allow yourself to fall in love. For anyone who said that fall in love is easy, no, I'm not going to say it's wrong. However, falling in love needs courage and I'm not allowing myself to fall in love; simply because I know I lack the courage.

Conquer a fear. Refer to my own resolution.

Figure out what you actually want out of life. This continues to the next one.

Find a passion and run with it. My passion refers to my job (or my career) and it goes on to the next point.

If you hate your job then quit your job. Refer to my own resolution.

Make those who are important in your life feel special. This, everyone, is a really nice reminder. 2014 just started so let's make it special with special persons.

Keep the promises you make and don't make promises that you can't keep. Because, like what people said, a promise means everything but, once it is broken, sorry means nothing.

No more making excuses for yourself. I should stop procrastinating. Yes, I should.

Stop taking life so seriously. My four most random friends (refer to my previous post here) taught me this point in a smart way. I believe they didn't have any intention to do it but, yeah, I took it as a life lesson.


So is there anything that inspires you? ;)


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Wednesday, January 01, 2014

‡ 2014 Edition: 25 New Year's Resolutions ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 4:51:00 PM

First of all, let me greet all of you who is reading this post.



Happy New Year 2014!
May all of you have a great, amazing, and blessed year all along the year.
Wish this year will be better than last year as well.


It's another new year and new year is quite identical with resolution.

If you read my post title, isn't it a little bit too much? 25 resolutions?


Well, it's not my resolutions actually. I read an article around 2-3 days ago and I found it's pretty nice. Therefore I want to share it here and, truth to be told, some of them are applicable for my resolutions.

Now... shall we?



25 New Year’s Resolutions Every Person Should Actually Make For 2014

New Year’s Eve is often seen as a time of rebirth, the chance to start anew. We all come up with the regular resolutions for the upcoming year (losing weight, seeing family more often and/or falling in love ), but often our ideas of what should change are too broad. This New Year’s Eve, we should all vow to take a closer look into our lives and make decisions about ourselves then. These are the 25 New Year’s resolutions every person should make:

1. Stop posting negative sh*t about celebrities on social media. Miley Cyrus does not care what you think about her haircut, Justin Bieber does not care what you think of his tattoos and Gwyneth Paltrow couldn’t care less regarding what you think about her diet.

2. Stop resenting yourself for drunk texting your ex.  Sure, its a little embarrassing, but at least you’re addressing your feelings. Not that you should aim to drink an entire bottle of rum then see what happens, but… roll with the punches.

3. Leave the country. If you don’t have money, look into doing charity work abroad. Some programs will sponsor you.

4. If you hate your job, quit your job. Repeat after me: THE MONEY IS NOT WORTH IT. Food and shelter are clutch though, so make sure you have another job lined up.

5. Stop beating yourself up for skipping the gym on days you truly didn’t have time. But also, stop skipping the gym on days you had plenty of time to go.

6. Make up — not to be confused with make out — with an ex.

7. Rid yourself of enemies. Apologize for what you did wrong and forgive those who have wronged you.

8. Rid yourself of “frenemies.” Don’t spend 2014 surrounded by people you secretly despise.

9. If you think somebody is cute, say “hi” and introduce yourself. Every relationship you have ever had started with a greeting.

10. Leave your phone number for someone. Worst-case scenario: you won’t get a call and maybe you’ll feel a tiny bit embarrassed. Regardless of the outcome, you put yourself out there and probably made the other person’s day.

11. Stop caring about how many people “like” your Instagram photos. If you like the photo enough to post it, what else matters? Social media anxiety is a waste of time.

12. Cross something off your bucket list. Sky dive, bungee jump, scuba dive, etc. Don’t make excuses as to why you can’t accomplish something, and check out.

13. Stop hating yourself for eating dessert. A piece of birthday cake is a right, not a privilege.

14. Keep a journal. It doesn’t have to be something you use daily, but documenting your experiences is incredibly important. You’ll appreciate it later.

15. Strengthen relationships with family members. Blood is thicker than water.

16. Help strangers. “Pay it forward,” do good things for the world — and don’t post a Facebook status about it.

17. Conquer a fear. Personally, I fear Bikram yoga.

18. Turn off your smartphone at dinner.

19. Don’t check your Twitter feed when you’re with friends.

20. Try a fashion trend you never thought you could pull off. And, do it with confidence. Floppy hats, snap backs, Harem pants; you can do it!

21. Double-text without fear. THOU SHALL NOT BE IGNORED!

22. Shop locally, eat locally and recognize where your money is going. Consumers control the economy, so visit the mom-and-pop coffee shop down the street instead of Starbucks. Shop at boutiques rather than chains (they aren’t all expensive — trust me). Try Etsy.com instead of retail conglomerates.

23. Cry. When you’re happy and when you’re sad; embrace your emotions as they come.

24. Stop being so shallow. Next time you find yourself judging someone based on his or her appearance, imagine the person standing in front of you saying, “I’m beautiful.” You’ll start to believe it.

25. If you want someone to commit to you, vocalize it. Don’t settle for being someone’s “f*ck buddy” if that isn’t what you want. “Together” is the waiting period between “talking” and “dating”; purgatory shouldn’t last forever.

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I take 4, 7, 14, 15, 16, 17, and 24.

4. If you hate your job, quit your job.
This, my friends, with all honesty that I have, will be my ultimate resolution of the year. *cross fingers*

7. Rid yourself of enemies.
I agree that everyone should have this as a new year's resolution. Every year. This world is already crazy enough with every little thing. Apologize for your mistakes and forgive someone else's will make this world a better place.

14. Keep a journal.
Thanks for Twitter, Path, Blogger, and all social medias where I'm active on. I update regularly so, yes, I do have digital journals here and there to remember my life journey. This is definitely one of my favorite resolutions.

15. Strengthen relationships with family members.
I'm not going to say that I have a perfect family with strong family bond because, no, I don't. However I will try my best to keep everything better as time goes by.

16. Help strangers.
The world needs more love and less hate. Helping friends is a must so why do we need to think too much to help strangers? I'd love to help strangers more this year because, yes, I love to see the smile on their faces whenever I give a little help (I'll talk about this on next post later on).

17. Conquer a fear.
My fear is not about doing something extreme or food or else. My fear is to be disliked by someone for being honest of myself. A friend told me that I should get rid of this habit, knowing that it's the best for us to live as ourselves.

24. Stop being so shallow.
I don't do this much actually but, yes, I do it sometimes. I realize that I should stop judging and all but, human is human, I have so much to learn to be a better person. This year I'll try even harder.


I'm done with mine. Let's see how I nail down them before 2015.

What about yours?

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