Showing posts with label opinion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label opinion. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 29, 2014

‡ Society for Us ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 10:24:00 PM

I just read something this afternoon and, after I read it, I gave it a thought.
Just a little, I guess, but I felt the urge to post a blog about it.
Considering how long I've been absent from posting here, I guess it's worth to write.


Ever heard of the encouraging quote "just be yourself"?
Or perhaps "don't give a damn of what people think about you", "be original", or just simply "be you!"?
I read those words here and there.
Not that I'm saying they are no good because, yes, they serve their objectives well: to encourage people.

Me, too, is no different. I like those words.
I have a very low self-esteem despite putting pride as my highest mistake most of the times (trust me, I'm trying my best to get rid of this lack of confidence, but, well, things take time).

If people ask me what I'm good at, I don't know the answer.
I can cook but it's just so-so. I can speak English but it's at the average state. I can write but never produce anything very good. I have a work but I can't learn very fast like the others. I'm just an average person at every field I do.
A good friend told me that it's my strength; knowing so many fields and work them because not everyone could do it but, then again, my negative thinking always takes afterwards.

What does it have to do with the quote "just be yourself"?



they told her she was ugly
so she believed it
(even though she was the most beautiful girl I had ever laid my eyes upon)

they told her she was loud
so she stopped speaking
(even though her wise words commanded my attention)

they told her she was dumb
so she stopped thinking
(even though she had the most brilliant and curious mind I have ever encountered)

they told her she had no talent
so she stopped having fun
(even though she could light up an entire room with her energy)

they told her she was lazy
so she stopped sleeping
(even though her life was the nightmare)

they told her she was too quiet
so she made small talk
(even though the voices in her head never ceased to quiet)

they told her she was too sad
so she faked another smile
(even though she was far from being happy)

they told her she wasn't enough
so she became nothing
(even though she was everything to me)


In my opinion, no matter how many times we remind ourselves that we just need to be original, to ignore the words of disagreement and all, we live in a world of different people.
We live in a society which has many different opinions; some might like us and some might don't because we can't make everyone happy.

After all, we, human beings, are social creatures.

We thrive in community.
We connect with one another.
We see what we don't have in others.
We understand about what we don't know from them.
We talk about ourselves to them.
We listen to their words.

True that everything returns to us again; whether you want to agree with them or just ignore their thoughts.
Then again, will it ever stop?


Society does have big impacts in our lives.

Every word, even the little talk, might affect someone else; for better or for worse.


"Your sister is prettier than you."
"You talked too much. Can you shut up?"
"How can you be so stupid?"
"Can you do anything right?"
"Do something useful, you lazy head!"
"Talk about something. Don't be an anti-social."
"You're too gloomy and melancholy."
"You can't do anything better than him."

Those words could just pass some people but those exactly some words might leave scars on others, as if the world couldn't accept them the way they are.
I'm not going to say I am a saint who never hurt other by words because, even though I don't realize it, I'm sure I have done that and I'm not proud of it.
Nevertheless, I want to avoid hurting others because I know how painful it feels. Like I said, it could leave scars.

Words hurt.
They don't make you bleed. They don't give you visible scars.
But they are painful when we are fed up with hurting, cutting words.

It's alright to give criticism but, remember, criticize with understanding.
You give input for make someone better, not the otherwise.
Everyone has good in them.

We're definitely not perfect but we need to try to be the best for ourselves.
Sometimes it's funny how society tells us to be ourselves yet they tell us that it's the 'wrong' way to be ourselves; really, God loves us the way we are, so love yourself too.
It's okay to make mistake. It's okay to be different. It's okay to listen to people. It's okay to change to be better for others.

But, like a quote said, don't just be good to others.

Be good to yourself too.

;)



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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

‡ 7 Reasons: Travel Alone ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 11:44:00 AM

Do you like travelling?



I do... or, at least, I think I do.
I never travel alone though (in my own definition of travelling).

The first time I left Indonesia without my parents is when I went to Singapore with Brenda, Dewi, and Monica (I wrote about it here) on 2011. It's quite interesting since we just went here and there based on online research by our own.

I went to Singapore again on November 2012 with Alvin, Liani, and Tono. Although I visited the same country, since I had different companion, it did feel somewhat different -- I enjoyed both experiences for sure.

Then Malaysia is my next destination on 2013 with Dewi, Indra, Liani, and Stella (complete story is here).

I went to Singapore (again) this January 2014 with my Mom. Third time but definitely the most different experience since I was the one who in charge for everything. I took a couple of hours to walk around Orchard alone during the third day since my Mom was too tired at the moment.

On additional note, I went to Bandung on January 2014 with Alvin, Liani, and Stella -- only for random walk and food. Another visit to Bandung (and Lembang Floating Market) last February 2014 with Jeanette, Matthew, and Wien.

I have this (probably) resolution to go on travelling alone (yes, no friend, no tour guide) one day. The destination? I have the name already but, well, I need to increase my savings first. *laughs*

Anyway, I just want to share an article I read this morning with all of you. Who knows if you find this kind of true? ;)



7 Reasons Why You Should Travel Alone At Least Once In Your Life


1. You will meet amazing people.
While traveling with friends or a significant other can be a lot of fun, traveling solo for a certain amount of time can prove to be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do because of the great people you’ll meet.

When we travel with friends or a partner, we tend to stick to that little group of familiar faces and even though you’ll meet new people, the dynamics and interactions won’t be as deep and fulfilling. While you’re on your own on the road, you’re much more eager to meet travel buddies, team up with other travelers and generally reach out more in order to socialize.


2. The overwhelming sense of absolute freedom.
When you travel on your own and you start meeting people and making awesome friends, you’ll probably team up with travel buddies and end up expanding your travel plans. You’ll probably change your plans once you hear about that amazing waterfall, that incredible desert beach, the opportunity to bungee jump from a high bridge, or taste a special delicacy you’ll only find off the beaten track.

When you’re traveling, you’re open to change and you’ll welcome it with open arms. The great thing is that you don’t have to fit into a group’s agenda, give explanations or disappoint anyone, you can follow your rhythm, desires and move like the wind.


3. Traveling alone challenges your fears and insecurities
This is a big one, especially if it’s your first solo experience. I remember the first time I traveled when I was 18 and moved to London on my own for 3 months to be an au pair and live with a local family. I was terrified of the unknown, but if I would have surrendered to that fear, I would have never get to know the strong, courageous and adventurous side of me. I was scared, but I did it anyways and by the 3rd day, I was really proud of myself. From then on I never let fear stop me. 16 years and many adventures later, I still have a little voice inside my head, asking: “What if something goes wrong?” “What if you get into trouble?” This is normal and perfectly human; fear exists for our own protection and boosts our awareness. But we shouldn't let it control our lives.

Safety can be a great comfort, but common sense is the key. Read and research a lot before you travel, check out hostel reviews, and research feedback from other travelers in forums and blogs. Respect the local culture and I guarantee you’ll be fine.


4. Fall in love.
Everyone wants to find their better half and much is said about failed relationships while on the road. It doesn't have to be like that! We find love when we meet someone who shares our interests, dreams, and goals. While traveling solo you’ll meet so many people from all walks of life that falling in love might just happen. Whether it will be a great summer love or end up at the altar, no one knows, but there are many people out there with amazing stories.

If you already have a partner, this time away can boost your passion and once you’re back, you’ll appreciate each other’s company more.


5. You can take the time to nurture yourself.
If you have a stressful life back home, either studying hard or working too much, traveling on your own can be the time to take some time off and nurture yourself.

Whether you’re a backpacker traveling cheap or if the sky is the limit as far as your budget goes, you can use this time to pamper yourself. Indulge in rich and delicious local meals which will boost your energy and health, take long walks on the beach by sunrise, or get a massage. Do some yoga and relax a lot. Enjoy all the wonderful things you deserve, and understand that happiness is a birth right, not a privilege.


6. You’ll have a chance to recreate yourself and be who you want to be.
While traveling solo, you can leave your grumpy, tired old self behind and start to be a new you. Explore parts of your personality you are not very comfortable or familiar with. When on the road, you might be challenged by unexpected factors and be positively surprised how well you respond to them. Empower yourself by unleashing the wonderful, irresistible and intelligent person you are, but whom you've neglected in your everyday routine.


7. You can finally take time to leave everything else behind.
Just disconnect from the world for a while. Turn off your mobile, “forget” to check you emails for a few days… don’t think about the bills, the responsibilities, the duties and problems. Leave them behind.

Some of the most intense creative times or the ones where we find the solutions for all our problems are actually the moments when we disconnect and stop worrying. Have you ever tried to remember a name or a date and you just can’t spit it out, but after you quit trying it pops out? It’s the same for the rest of life. Sometimes our brains need to get rid of old thoughts in order to be able to create space for new ones, better ones. So just disconnect yourself from everything and you might be amazed by how fresh you’ll feel once you get back home.

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Wednesday, March 19, 2014

‡ Right, Wrong : Person, Time ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 10:21:00 PM

Apparently, tonight I bring 'love' as the theme again.

I read an article, written beautifully and amazingly true. You can read her writing here.

Every girl has her own ideal type.

Tall. Humorist. Smart. Handsome. Friendly. Easy going. Honest. Sweet. Creative. Independent.
Mr Nice Guy. The Bad Boy. The Alpha Male. The Romantic Prince.
Musician. Artist. Cook. Photographer. Sportsman.

The list goes on and on, according to each girl in this world who has personal preference for boys.


I remember writing this one question around three years ago. This question would linger in my mind whenever I feel like standing at the edge of somewhere; not knowing whether I'm going to fall on safe place or to the dark abyss.

"Am I the right person who appeared in the wrong time...

or am I only a wrong person who appeared in the right time?"

According to J.cheong (the writer of the article I mentioned above), there are three men in every girl's love life.


The right person you meet at the wrong time.

During your time of youth, a girl could have every first time with this one person. Your first love and, probably, your first heartbreak. He's the right person who became the one who told you that not everything you wanted is what you needed.


The right person you meet at the right time.

Then there is this one person who could make you realize why everything didn't work out the way you think it should be.

For girls who love romantic stuff, this person is the one who would be the companion in every moment you would love to remember for your whole life. For them who are not too romantic (including me), he is the man who is your best friend, brother, and lover at the same time. He would be glad to tell you that imperfection is what makes love even more beautiful.


The wrong person you meet at the right time.

As for the last, the writer talked about marriage -- about how true love is all about a matter of timing. Perhaps, for now, he is the right one but, in ten years, he might not be the one anymore. She mentioned about marriage is not (always) about the right one at the right time, but it's because he is the right one forever.


I'm just going to add a small point here but, no, I'm not going to talk about marriage since I know barely nothing about it. When we talk about the wrong person at the right time, girls in their 20s would probably think about this one guy who appeared in the low points of their lives. He would lift you up, shine on you, stay with you like no other.

Everything felt perfectly right... but it's all just your feeling. You thought he's the right one but, no, he's just there at the perfect timing. There would come a moment when it hit you hard, "Oh my, what was I thinking again? How could I not realize that we're not meant to be?"


Is it love when that moment came up? Is it regret? Is it a complaint?

Depends.

I'm not going to count it as a regret nor complaint. You just learn another life lesson. You celebrate his existence in your love history but, you know, he's not the right one.


That's the end of my random opinion tonight.

How about yours? ;)




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Tuesday, March 18, 2014

‡ What Is Love? ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 11:50:00 PM


Love.

What is love really?

Ask ten different persons and they might give you ten different answers as well.

Valentine's Day has passed for more than one month but, like what people said, it's not like we only celebrate the existence of love on V-Day, right? ;)

Let's start this topic with my own simple definition of love.


Love is universal.

Nowadays, most people come up with an idea of a couple -- man and woman -- when one speaks of the word 'love'. Lyrics, movies, books. Everything.

Of course it's not wrong. It's definitely one kind of love. I just add the love for God, love for family, love for friends, and love for the world in my dictionary of love; the very reason why I define love as universal.

Love is not only restricted for two souls who will be together for life (or somewhere around that point).


Love is sincere.

When it comes to love, you don't demand others to be like what you want. You accept them for who they are but doesn't let them to fall out to the abyss when it brings no good.

You don't blame love when you feel hurt. You don't ask for people to return your love because, yes, loving is not about give and take; it's about loving without regret.


Then why do we cry because of love? Why does heart keep breaking? Why can't everyone just be happy when we love others?

Some said life is not fair and so is love.


Just because you love someone, doesn't mean the person should love you equally. Remember, love is sincere. Love is not about who loves another more. No, of course, it's not wrong to expect the person you love to return your feeling but, if your intention from the start is just to love and ask it back, be ready to be blown by your own expectation.

Sure, hearts break. Someone could break your heart, the same way you might break another heart. However, there will be someone who could gather pieces of your heart and make you realize your imperfection is perfect, the same way you could be that 'someone' for a soul in this world.

Crying is not a weakness. If you cry because you feel hurt by loving someone, perhaps it's because you lose the essence of loving yourself; we forget that loving someone else also means that we should love ourselves as well.

Cry for love. Cry for one you love. Cry for a heart that loves you. Cry for a world which exists for and after you.

With all those reasons behind your tears, you'll find even more reasons to smile for love.


Aren't those words sound too dreamy? I know. I feel that way as well but, well then, that is exactly what I think about love.

How about you?


"If a thing loves, it is infinite."
- William Blake




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Monday, February 17, 2014

‡ Project 2014 v.1 ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 12:33:00 AM

A friend once said that I look excited the most when I'm talking about writing.

Ever since I was a kid (7-8 years old), I had shown interest in writing. I showed my love to read earlier before that time. The first story I tried to write is a horror story (I laugh whenever I remember this). This doesn't stop until today and, people, this means two things at the same time.

My bad habit of starting something without any idea how to end it stays the same. Ideas run in my head, I write them down, but ends up not finishing them as well.

My imagination keeps expanding and I've tried to write for horror, romance, angst, and fantasy theme. I always try to write at the best state I can do.

To be honest, I have low self-esteem. I often feel I can't do anything better than others. I feel like I'm just an average person (or, even worse, lacking in everything).

I'm easily feel hurt by people's opinion during most discussion (unless I know them very well) but, strangely, this doesn't apply when it comes to writing. I don't take challenges much but, once again, if it's about writing, it is different for me.

So what is this all about?

Let's keep it short for v.1. I'll give more details in v.2.

Here I leave a question for you; my answer will be on next post.


Imagine that, two years in the future, you are reading a magazine. You find the headline news with your smiling picture and words about your life.

What kind of article is it about?

(inspired by David Sibet's method; not mine)


 

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Saturday, February 08, 2014

‡ Simply Complicated: Edition 1 ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 12:18:00 AM

Hello, everyone.

Before I start writing down whatever I mean with the post title, let me wish all of us a happy Lunar New Year! Yes, I did celebrate it on 31 January 2014. Hopefully this new year will bring us even brighter and more wonderful moments. ;)



Also, just doing a quick recap, January is pretty much a colorful month to start 2014.

After kidnapped until the first morning of New Year and going for dinner to PIK at the evening, I had the chance to watch "The Secret Life of Walter Mitty" (RECOMMENDED! You should watch this movie!) with one of my best friend (who is also one of my most favorite authors) whom I knew since elementary school, Chris, on the first Monday of 2014.

I went to Singapore for 4 days and 3 night with my Mom (I considered it as a belated Mother's Day's present for her) on 12 to 15 January 2014 (FYI, I went to Puncak on 10 and 11, along with cold and headache). Meanwhile part of Jakarta was attacked with flood. The flood filled the first floor of my house again on 15 to 18. It happened again on the next week and then again two or three days ago (do not ask me what is wrong with my environment; have no idea).

Good news? My one-package-friend, Brenda, told me that she will be graduated officially from her second university (yes, second it is) tomorrow on 8 February 2014! Congratulations, my soulmate! You're indeed a magical person!

Okay. That's all for the January recap. Now move on to my post title.

I just feel like blogging tonight yet I don't really know what I'm going to write. This post will be somewhat similar to the Trivia About Me here but, well, perhaps a little bit longer and detailed.

So... shall we start this random post of mine?


Here's the intermezzo.

Some said that women are complicated. I often heard that women have hearts as deep as the ocean. Men often complain about this and, knowing that (most) men are pretty simple regarding everything, I can understand the complaining. I really do because, even though I'm a woman, I still find that women's complexity is very amusing most of the time.

Anyone's here with me?

I am not going to deny that I'm quite complicated as well yet, from my very own opinion, I find myself somehow simple. How simple am I? How far do I go in complicated level?


I am an introvert who loves to talk and meet new people.

For people whom I just meet, some might guess I'm an extrovert but, no, I'm a pure introvert.

I love to spend my time alone, reading book, writing something, listening to music. Sometimes I even go to the cinema to watch movies alone. I can spend hours walking around (or at the bookstores) without bothering whether I have companion or else.

However I also love to have new experiences, meeting new people with different personalities. I love to share stories and opinions, having more perspectives in life for various aspects. Sure I prefer spending my weekends over with my close friends just to do nothing (or watching whatever videos at their places or going for random walk at nearby malls or anything else), but I really don't mind to try something new that interests me.

I'm not going to acknowledge myself as a very good listener but I guess I'm not a bad one either. I like to listen when others talk. I keep myself to think from different point of views at the same time. I also like to exchange thoughts with others, having the desire to know about what they think about my thought and more.

But (yes, there's a but here) I don't just talk to whoever around me.

I am not picky when it comes to friendship but I do have my personal preferences when we're talking about best friends. For me, the friendship level starts from an acquaintance to a friend to a good friend to a best friend. 

Okay, I'll talk about trust on next edition.



I am very positive toward others but have the bad habit of self-blame.

This is possibly just my own personal opinion but, among my friends, I'm quite positive thinking. When one does something bad, I try my best to think of a good reason behind the act.

"Maybe he is having a trouble..." "I think she didn't mean it that way..." "They are busy..."

Whenever my friend is too emotional up to the state that he/she starts to blame the people, I usually react calmly, telling him/her that we're supposed to be objective when facing a trouble. Sure, being subjective is not a sin but, well, like one once said, everyone is fighting their own war everyday so we don't need to act like we're the ones with biggest problem on the Earth, do we?

Unfortunately this positive-thinking-attitude of mine doesn't apply for myself.

To be honest, I think I'm better in throwing complaints against myself instead of feeling proud of what I've done. When something goes wrong, I put the blame on myself just because I think it makes everything feels better. Weird, eh?

When someone asks me a question and I can't give an answer, I feel that it's my fault.
When someone needs my help but I'm not able to do it, I feel that it's my fault.
When someone has expectation from me but I can't fulfill it, I feel that it's my fault.
When someone ends a conversation when I think it's not finished yet, I feel that it's my fault.
When someone points out my mistake even though he/she tells me it's alright, I feel guilty.

I guess I just have the principle to never blame others for a problem but, then again, I still need someone to be accused of for the wrong. I choose myself over everyone else. I guess it's the most possible answer.

No, it's not a good habit. It's definitely a bad one. Some of my friends have reminded me of this but I think it will take quite a while for me to get rid of this habit. I'll try my best to decrease it but, no worry, I rarely display this too much to people around me.

Unless I put my faith upon you. Let's talk about it on the next edition, okay?


Until then, people. Have a blessed life. ;)

 

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Sunday, February 02, 2014

‡ Footprints ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 9:46:00 PM

One night a man had a dream.

He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord.

Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.

For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand;
one belonging to him, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footprints in the sand.

He noticed that many times along the path of his life there was only one set of footprints.

He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he questioned the Lord about it.

"Lord, You said that once I decided to follow You, You'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when I needed You most, You would leave me."

The Lord replied,

"My precious, precious child, I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints.

It was then that I carried you."


__________


This story is taken from Afterhours Inspirational Stories.

Most of our difficult times, we often seek for God and question His presence. Why do He give us such difficulties in life? Where is He when we're struggling?

I am a person who believe that God will never give us something that we can't handle.

He gives us enough for everything.

He gives us time. He gives us life lessons. He gives us what we need.

He gives us love above all.

Whenever you're facing a problem, remember that God never leaves you.

However, please remember, that we shouldn't leave God as well because He will carry us through anything as long as we're with Him.

Have blessed days ahead, everyone! ;)



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Thursday, January 02, 2014

‡ More Resolutions for 2014 ‡

Written by Erlia Eleciel | 3:22:00 PM

Are 25 resolutions not enough for 2014?

It's 2 January 2014 and, here I am again, to list down more resolutions for you to read. However these are not my resolutions; I wrote everything already yesterday.

I read this article from the same website where I quoted the 25 resolutions. Apparently they shared even more resolutions for this new year. Perhaps it can inspire you to have better resolutions -- especially for all of you who are in 20s (I'm still 22 anyway!).

Let me just do CTRL+C and CTRL+V first here and just quote what I like the most.


1. No more procrastinating. If something needs to be done, you do it then and there.

2. No more eating when you’re down. You’re just going to gain weight and make yourself feel even worse.

3. Get to bed earlier. Nothing great happens after 2 am.

4. Wake up earlier. You don’t need to see the sun come up, but if the birds are chirping then you should be working.

7. Give your liver a break and stop being a short step and stumble away from alcoholism.

10. Stop spending money on things that you don’t need.

12. Leave your comfort zone at least once a week — every week.

13. Travel more.

16. Give up commenting on topics you are clueless about.

17. When you don’t know the answer to things, ask.

18. Speak up and be heard. Being brilliant is useless unless others recognize it.

19. If you’re introverted, practice being a bit more outgoing and interactive.

20. If you’re extroverted, spend some more time alone, being contemplative.

21. Stop harassing others.

22. Stop allowing yourself to be harassed. Stand up for yourself — no one else will.

23. Resolve to get to know yourself better. You’re the most interesting person you’ll ever get to know.

25. Learn to think for yourself.

27. Understand that there is always a better, more efficient way to do something. Then figure out how.

28. Be more curious. Life may be an unsolvable puzzle, but it’s a puzzle nonetheless.

29. Start giving back to your community — you may need its help one day.

30. When someone does something nice for you, thank him or her genuinely.

31. Tell those you love that you love them; they won’t be around forever and then you’ll wish you’d have let them know when you had the chance.

32. Take that resolution that you have been “working on” for the last half-decade and actually get it done.

33. Give to those in need. One species, one family.

35. Allow yourself to fall in love. You have to want it to find it.

36. Conquer a fear. Then conquer another. Life is to be lived, not feared.

37. Learn to accept what you can’t change.

38. Find the courage to change what you can change.

39. Figure out what you actually want out of life. If you don’t know what is important to you then you don’t know yourself.

40. Find a passion and run with it.

41. Make mistakes. Then learn from them.

42. Learn from the mistakes of others.

43. Read more.

51. Stop texting when you’re having dinner.

52. Resolve to spend more time talking to people face-to-face.

53. If you get turned down then don’t dwell, move on.

54. Never live in the past — only in the present and near future.

55. If you forgive then forget.

57. Spend more time with those who matter and less time with those who don’t.

58. If you hate your job then quit your job. Don’t torture yourself for yet another year.

59. Attempt to do something that you don’t think you can do and then truly give it your all. You’ll be surprised with the results.

60. Be a better son or daughter.

61. Be a better brother or sister.

63. Appreciate the things that others do for you.

64. Make your appreciation known. Not being appreciated has the same result as not knowing you’re appreciated.

65. Wave and smile at strangers. You may just save their lives.

66. Don’t poke fun of those who are in a bad situation. They have enough weighing on their shoulders.

67. Give a helping hand whenever you are able to — not just when you are in the mood to.

68. Become more self-reliant; in the end it’s really you against the world.

69. Either practice what you preach or stop preaching. If you’re going to point a finger then point one at yourself first.

70. Start making more money. When there is a will, there is a way — a legal way.

71. Stay up-to-date on world news. The world keeps getting smaller and smaller and our voices keep getting louder and louder.

72. Resolve to take at least two week-long vacations. Aim for four.

73. Start every day excited and on full throttle. Being energetic in the morning often leads to being energetic throughout the day.

77. Don’t let people make decisions for you. It’s your life and you’re a grownup dammit.

78. Learn to take responsibility for your actions.

79. Learn something new: a language, an instrument, a sport…

80. Resolve to do what you believe to be right.

81. Promise yourself to keep an open mind and to weigh all the options carefully.

82. Read up or brush up on philosophy. It will change the way you perceive the world and your purpose in it.

83. Accept that there is no one reality, but a multitude of them—each person perceiving things just a little differently.

84. Don’t get worked up during arguments. They’re not worth the stress.

85. See things a bit more black and white. It’ll make making decisions a whole lot easier.

86. Practice self-control. You may not be able to control every aspect of your life, but you can control you.

91. Make those who are important in your life feel special. Give them the attention and love that they deserve and they will reciprocate.

94. Resolve to find more balance in your life. Extremes are a part of life, but without overall balance, we will fall off the deep end and drown.

95. Train your brain. It’s the greatest and most important tool in your arsenal. Learn to use it better.

96. Delay gratification. The wait itself is usually the best part.

98. Keep the promises you make and don’t make promises that you can’t keep.

99. No more making excuses for yourself. You are in control of your destiny; if you fail to make something out of yourself then you are the one that is failing — nobody else.

100. Stop taking life so seriously. It’s supposed to be fun. And besides, it’ll all be over before you know it.

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I personally like a lot of them but, yes, I have my favorite points.

No more procrastinating. I do this a lot. Most of the times actually. I always have excuses to procrastinate everything.

Stop spending money on things that you don't need. I have a problem with money management, I must admit.

Travel more. Anyone? I'd love to travel to places I never visit before. By myself,

Allow yourself to fall in love. For anyone who said that fall in love is easy, no, I'm not going to say it's wrong. However, falling in love needs courage and I'm not allowing myself to fall in love; simply because I know I lack the courage.

Conquer a fear. Refer to my own resolution.

Figure out what you actually want out of life. This continues to the next one.

Find a passion and run with it. My passion refers to my job (or my career) and it goes on to the next point.

If you hate your job then quit your job. Refer to my own resolution.

Make those who are important in your life feel special. This, everyone, is a really nice reminder. 2014 just started so let's make it special with special persons.

Keep the promises you make and don't make promises that you can't keep. Because, like what people said, a promise means everything but, once it is broken, sorry means nothing.

No more making excuses for yourself. I should stop procrastinating. Yes, I should.

Stop taking life so seriously. My four most random friends (refer to my previous post here) taught me this point in a smart way. I believe they didn't have any intention to do it but, yeah, I took it as a life lesson.


So is there anything that inspires you? ;)


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